“Misbehavior” Is How Children Express Fear and Confusion

CTAHR’s Center on the Family offers parenting tips during lockdown

“Misbehavior” Is How Children Express Fear and Confusion

The pandemic is creating stress, keeping everyone in close quarters, and curtailing opportunities to get help and take a break from parenting. According to experts, all of these factors add up to a potential spike in child abuse.

Center on the Family director Barbara DeBaryshe was interviewed for a UH News story on how to keep domestic life on an even keel during the crisis. She suggests keeping a consistent routine, which is comforting to keiki; giving kids a role in contributing to family life, like helping to cook or care for pets; making sure to get physical activity; being loving and cuddly; making sure to maintain social contacts by phone or Zoom; and, last but not least, making sure to take care of oneself as well.

Barbara counsels, “Ask for help. There is no shame in feeling at the end of your rope. Talk to your friends. Talk to your family members. Call a help line if needed.” If necessary, parents should leave the room until they feel calmer.

It’s also important to understand the cause of what seems like disobedience or naughtiness. “Your child’s behavior is not misbehavior, it’s a signal. It’s communication of their fears, feelings of loss or confusion. So as much as you can, stop and think about your child’s perspective.”

This crisis can also be an opportunity. “We have a lot of time together now, which gives us a chance to learn more about each other, to strengthen our bonds and really reflect on our priorities and values. We all have the potential to emerge from this crisis even stronger than we were when we started.”


Campus Reopening

Provost Bruno will host virtual forum 2:00 p.m. Thursday (TOMORROW)

On-Target Genome Editing

Study aimed at children’s diseases could help boost agricultural production

A Garden Isle Welcome

New county administrator joins the Kaua‘i Extension ‘ohana

‘Awa, Anyone?

Pu‘u O Hoku Ranch offers a CTAHR-exclusive discount

What Lies Beneath…

Find out June 30 how plant roots influence the soil in which they grow

Convocation Memories

Links to Spring 2020 graduation video and grads now available

How Can We Help?

Human Development and Family Sciences develops a quick guide to coping

4-H Ali‘i

Join the June 25th online ceremony for 4-H supporters

Plant Guardian

Extension’s Amjad Ahmad will represent Hawai‘i for national germplasm collection

Owl Right!

On June 30, NREM grad student will discuss endemic, endangered pueo

Food for Grandfamilies

Maui Extension pairs elders and food trucks for meals and education

Get It Covered

Western SARE is conducting a cover crop survey

Taking Home a Bronze

Voice of the Sea episode about CTAHR wins a Telly Award

More Anthurium

Master’s thesis project investigates anthurium propagation

No Fire on the Farm

Learn how to assess and reduce the risk of wildfire on agricultural lands

Virtual Benefits Fair

All-day event offers online workshops 8:00 a.m. through 5:00 p.m.

Runoff and Hawaiʻi Coral

Master’s thesis investigates the human impact on native soft octocoral

Start Your Startup

Shidler College of Business offers assistance to new entrepreneurs

Get Your CFAP On

USDA provides financial assistance to agriculture


In-person safety training TODAY at 10:00 a.m. at Magoon

The Roots of Farming

Cooperative Extension offers a virtual potato production workshop

ADSC Is Closed to Samples

Last-minute construction changes adversely affect ADSC’s ability to provide diagnostics.

Nutrition Outreach

Professor honored for obesity prevention locally and internationally

‘Olena Online

Virtual turmeric webinar and drive-up cultivar distribution